Comments on: Is God a matchmaker?

By: Alex

Alex — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 02:11:58 +0000

If you do not mind me asking, how old were you when you got married? Just wondering because it sounds like a very mature thing to do and I have friends who are 22 and 23 getting married and I am pretty sure they have yet to even think of this, I hope one day to view marriage as you do.

By: Seth

Seth — Mon, 09 Aug 2010 14:14:56 +0000

I love what you said about not marrying unless you and your wife can believe you will bring more honor to God as a couple than as singles. I met someone recently and I’m “thinking” far too much as I tend to do. Choosing to date or even become exclusive somewhere in the future does not ensure we would get married. It simply opens the door for God to lead us. I’m having a tough time with deciding whither to explore things further and am seeking the Lord intently but I’m very blessed as I’m reminded that above all, if you bring more glory to God single than you would with that person, you had better not get married!

Thanks

By: Sierra

Sierra — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 00:10:58 +0000

What about Jacob and Rachel? God brought her to him, and he waited 7 years. And Paul talks about being single and how he thinks it’s great, but if you’re going to burn with passion: Get married! The Bible might not say, “If you pray for a mate, I’ll give you one.” But God does promise in His word that He has a plan for us and if you have a desire, Pray about it! (Obviously not in that context…)

I also do not believe that God would give you a burning desire to get married, and make you live like that for the rest of your life! It has to go both ways: You have to listen, follow and obey God before He can bless you. I know this first hand. 😉

By: Joe

Joe — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 01:09:37 +0000

Mayra, I understand how you feel. I find this same problem on just about every Christian blog. Everyone there has a different opinion…and so all that does is bring tremendous confusion. It’s just my opinion, but I feel you should do whatever you have peace about. If you have peace to look for a spouse then look for one in faith and ask the Lord to direct your steps and give you peace. And if it’s not the Lord’s will then pray He will shut all doors. I believe the Lord gives us freedom in this area, and the right answer for one person may not be the right answer for another. I believe we need to do whatever the Lord is putting on our heart. For some people this may mean searching for a mate, while for other people it may mean learning to wait for the Lord to bring the mate. The key is that we hear what He is saying to us individually, and sometimes hearing him is just going with whatever we have peace about in our heart — that peace (or lack of peace) is His answer to you — that is how He may be speaking.

By: JackSprat

JackSprat — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 05:22:43 +0000

Okay here is the deal. There is nothing written in the Bible that states someone “prayed” for a mate and got one through answered prayer.

Yes, It is much better to be married. I doubt you find any argument from me or anybody else regarding that.

Remember; the scriptures are the only thing a Christian can use as a standard. Every thing must be proven with specific scriptures. 2 Timothy 3:16

Okay my thoughts on this. Everyone in the world is seeking true love in a mate. If they say they aren’t, I will show you a liar LOL. The mate deal is pretty important stuff. There is nothing in the Bible to prove God specifically promises anyone a mate. Also, keep in mind there is no instance in the Bible of someone getting a mate by prayer. The bottom line is; God is very smart and he didn’t forget anything. God is not in the “matchmaker” business.

By: Wendy

Wendy — Mon, 10 May 2010 14:11:30 +0000

I struggled with this for a long time. I met with my minister and had a really good discussion with him about dating and how to go about finding the person God has chosen for me. I was very passive on seeking out any one and I had initially been praying that God would send the right person into my life. In talking with my minister he suggested that I become very intentional and start to “move” and that in turn God would move me into the right direction. I started praying that God would prepare me for the man He would put into my life to be my husband. I joined a couple of dating sites but the couple of men that I did meet from there were so superficial in their relationship with Christ that I was becoming very discouraged. I am on face book and was posting my journey in my dating. After one date I came back and state on a post that if anyone had told me when I was younger that I would be 41, a single mom and dating I would have laughed and said no way! But well here I am and I never thought that a prerequisite I would need to add to my dating profile would be “must have teeth”. Yes my friends and I had a really great discussion about this. One gentleman from my church was a friend on face book. I didnâ€™t realize he was watching my dating comments/journey. We had been friends for a while. We were put into the same small group for Bible study. We started spending more time together at church and at church activities. I suddenly realized that here I was with this amazing Christian man in my life. We are now dating and I have given the whole relationship to God and am excited to see what God has in store.

By: JDan30

JDan30 — Wed, 05 May 2010 20:17:48 +0000

God will lead us to who He knows will best suit us, and best suit our mate if we let Him. We must allow God’s will to guide us, and not let our physical nature do the deciding. The carnal flesh will lead us to the wrong decision everytime, but God is perfect and everything He does is with perfection. Then it’s up to us after marriage to keep God as the foundation of the relationship, and continue to follow His will for it to last. Of course we’re not perfect, but it’s that goal which keeps us looking to Christ in all things we do.

By: Sierra

Sierra — Tue, 04 May 2010 19:51:28 +0000

Sometimes we pray but deep down, we aren’t really listening. God works under His timing, not ours. We may want to know what His plans are for us right awayâ€“and yet, wait for years. The Bible says, “Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself.” (Matthew 6:34) It also says, “Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth; all the stages of my life were spread out before you, The days of my life all prepared before I’d even lived one day.” (The Message Psalm 139:16)

God knows who we will be and what we will do with our lives before we even take our first breath. “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.” (Psalm 139:13)

So who are we to question God? Who are we to ask Him, the wind and wave husher, the Sustainer of the Universe, why He has not answered our prayers or brought forth the man/woman that we are to spend the rest of our lives with? He holds the universe in His hands- with the sound of His voice he created the Heavens and the Earth. In His word He promises to answer your prayers. He is a loving and faithful God, like none other.

I am sixteen years old and I, growing up in ministry and learning to live and love Him, have found all this to be true. He loves His children, and if you’re living and breathing your every breath for HIM, He will bless you!

I am still waiting for the man God has for me, not to say I don’t think about it on a regular basis. But when I do, I do pray about it. I pray for the man God has for me, because I know He does have one… I’m just waiting. And in the mean time, I’m doing everything that I can to work towards my goal, which is to LOVE others, LEARN more about God’s love and what we can do to be like Him and to serve Him more. He died for me and for the world, and for that, I honor Him, trust Him, Believe in Him, wait on Him, serve Him… and as God’s children, I believe we were all meant to do the same.

Isaiah 45:18 He says
“I am the LORD,
and there is no other.”

For His Glory,
sierra

28And now, dear children, continue in him, so that when he appears we may be confident and unashamed before him at his coming. 1 John 2:28

By: Mayra

Mayra — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 18:20:53 +0000

None of the comments/article here have really helped me. If we all serve the same God why then do we all have different experiences and opinions. I am 27 years old I serve God with all my heart. I am very confuse. I want a family. I pray and I don’t hear God’s voice.

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 18:53:05 +0000

How did he let you know that he was coming?